This simple activity is one that I found particularly useful during the last few months when many of us have been separated from family and friends. Birthdays and other occasions that would normally be a great social opportunity have been and gone and it’s not been easy to see loved ones or send a card or gift. In my search for something accessible and personal this idea offers an opportunity to be as creative as you like (bare minimum effort in presentation or really going all out – it’s the content that matters, not the look!) and to share compliments, memories, funny moments etc. with someone you care about.
This doesn’t have to be done for a special occasion – why not just use it as an opportunity to connect and give them (and you) a boost? Taking the time to reflect on shared positive memories and the qualities you see in your friends/family reaffirms your connection and allows you both to savour your relationship.
What to do
Easy. All you need is time set aside to think about the person and decide what you want to tell them. You could e.g. write down some strengths or qualities you see in them. Why you like them. What you appreciate about them. Funny memories or ‘in’ jokes. What they mean to you.
What you decide to share will likely be shaped by your relationship with them and your personality. Some people will choose to say a lot, while a little may be just as meaningful coming from someone else.
Ways this can be done
- As a text or email
- As a crafty project – (e.g. poster, board, scrapbook) – send photos if you want to avoid the post office! Save the real thing for the next time you see each other
- As a card to post
- As a video or audio message
Good relationships with friends and family is core to our well-being. Making the time to tell people you care about them and value your connection is important and this is one low cost, accessible and personal way to show them!